Handling it isn’t the same as being fine.
If you’re used to solving things yourself, asking for help can feel like failing at something you’re supposed to be good at. You don’t have to be in crisis to start.
The people I see individually are usually competent everywhere else. They run teams, hold families together, and are the ones others come to for advice. The difficulty isn’t that they can’t cope. It’s that coping has become the entire strategy, and it costs more every year.
Waiting isn’t a failure of will. It’s what happens when you’re good at handling things. But the work is slower and harder the longer a pattern has had to set, and nothing about starting requires a crisis to justify it.
What the first sessions are for.
I want as much information as possible, in your words. Four things:
What the problem is.
How long it has been a problem.
What you have done to try to resolve it.
What you need in order for it to change.
This takes time, and I don’t rush it.
You are the expert on your own life. I bring a great deal of expertise on people and on relationships. We partner together.
I don’t work at a snail’s pace, but I don’t leave a stone unturned.
Twenty minutes, no charge.
We talk about what’s bringing you in and whether I’m the right person for it. No pressure either way.